Needs of children in Education

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Needs of children in Education
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The path to our children’s success begins right at the start. Our children are not born as an empty vessel, waiting to be filled. Each one already has some innate talents, a personality that will develop and grow. If you have more than one child, you’ll know how amazing it is to watch both children grow up in the same environment but grow so differently, and respond to different things.
While our child is not an empty vessel, they are a little like a sponge, absorbing both the good and bad that comes their way. It’s our job to create an environment that gives them a strong foundation to build their success from.
Of course each and every one of us can think of one famous, extraordinarily success person who can from such horror and heartbreak that we look at that and see that only people with a tortured home life have the ability to succeed. But for every story of horror, there are far more people who succeed from happy, settled and sorted homes- their stories just don’t make quite as good a read!
To start the foundations right, all children need an environment of good boundaries, routines, rules and responsibility. These words are often bandied about but the following is a basic rundown of how these work to created success.

BOUNDARIES
These are not hard fences, but are rather the universal laws governing your home. The first boundary has to be love, and is best started from birth. Your child’s understanding of unconditional love, that you’ll be there for them no matter what begins here. If this boundary is well established everything else is easier. You need to attend to your baby’s needs, as they occur, and learn to read the personality of your baby and adapt your parenting to suit. One baby may be best suited to being held for long periods of time, born touch hungry, while another one prefers to have time alone in their cot. Each child needs to be parented differently.
After love, comes consequences. Focus on natural consequences, such as tidying up a mess they’ve made themselves, paying for the window they broke, or apologizing face to face for a wrong they’ve committed. This has to be age appropriate (young children may sometimes only clean up a portion of the mess, and you help with the rest), and it needs to be consistent. Every one is allowed to have a rough day where you just sort it out yourself, but it’s good to keep going with the boundaries you’ve created. The chief boundaries basically boil down to three important precepts: Respect for self, respect for others, and respect for things.
Creating good boundaries is important. As an adult we sometimes make conscious decisions to enlarge our boundaries, to allow people to walk over us a little, or sometimes we do the same to them, particularly in business. But well established boundaries help in all areas of our life from relationships to business. They help us to avoid addiction, and build positive, strong and effective relationships with others- all of which add to our success.

CHALLENGE: Spend some time looking at the boundaries, the natural boundaries you have today. These are often our physical environment, our state of fitness and finances, and time to list a few. See how these all naturally curtail us and create boundaries? Of course for huge success to happen most of us need to step outside these boundaries at some point, and walk almost by faith, but this works best if we first know where the boundaries lie, and which ones are more important (those that are relationship based for example) than others.
ROUTINES
For some routines adds a certain gleam to the eye, while for others cultivating routines send you into the realm of panic attacks.
While some like to run a home with military precision, the most positive way to create routine is out of need, rather than a quest for perfection. Perfection creates stress and anxiety.
We want a happy, full home for our children instead. A home with children in it shouldn’t be immaculate all hours of the day- children thrive best in a slightly unkempt and creative atmosphere. If you’ve spent more time in the last week cleaning than interacting with your children, you may need to renegotiate how you are allocating your time.
Routines cater to a child’s most basic needs: for food, sleep, shelter, health and sense of self. When looking at these, you can see why it’s important to add routines for mealtimes, bedtimes, and bath times and time with you or alone. It doesn’t need to be regimented to the minute, though it is probably a good idea for both you and your child if some things are. For example, select several types of food for breakfast, and your child can choose amongst those every day, rather than have a new and improved breakfast every morning. Set a bed time, and stick to it.

The best thing about routines is not about the sticking to them black and blue, day in and day out part. The best thing is when you decide to trust your child to a non routine moment. A child LOVES the occasional late night far more if they know it’s secretly past their bedtime. Kids love getting pancakes on a Sunday as it means it’s a different day to the rest f the week when all they had was toast or cornflakes. If everyday is a haphazard day they don’t have anything to center themselves on, and treats get all mixed into the chaos.
CHALLENGE: Set some routines in place- and let them suit both you and your children. Sit down with them to explain any changes and then introduce them. If you are not used to giving your children routines, do expect some resistance (can feel like a lot!) and just remember to be consistent and calm while making sure those new routines get established. Some children will adjust easier; others will take up to three weeks to adjust. I fit’s a good routine (such as a regular bedtime) you may be surprised at how fast you being to see some huge payoffs for your decision

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